Masih ingat kisah bilionair Hong Kong yang menawarkan ganjaran lebih RM200 juta kepada mana-mana lelaki yang berjaya memikat anak gadisnya yang terlibat dalam hubungan lesbian?
Gigi, anak bilionair berkenaan, Cecil Chao Sze-tsung akhirnya mengulas tentang tindakan bapanya itu dalam satu surat terbuka.
Surat yang disiarkan di dua akhbar utama Hong Kong semalam, menyaksikan Gigi mempertahankan pendiriannya untuk terus bersama kekasih lesbiannya, Sean Eav.
Gigi turut menceritakan dalam surat berkenaan, dia amat berbesar hati jika bapanya dapat melayan Sean dengan baik sebagai manusia kalau pun tidak dapat menerimanya sebagai ‘menantu’.
Begitu pun, Gigi menyatakan bahawa dia tidak sekali-kali menyalahkan bapanya jika tidak dapat memahami apatah lagi menerima keputusan hidupnya dalam soal hubungan cinta.
Selain itu, Gigi mengambil kesempatan untuk berkongsi perasaan bahagianya dalam perhubungan yang dijalin bersama Sean – sesuatu yang tidak berlaku ketika dia menjalinkan hubungan dengan lelaki.
Di penghujung surat, Gigi menjelaskan bahawa dia tidak bersama lelaki bukanlah kerana tidak ada lelaki yang baik di Hong Kong untuk dijadikan suami sebagai mana telahan bapanya tetapi kerana dia tidak berminat dengan jantina tersebut.
Berikut adalah kandungan penuh surat Gigi kepada bapanya:
Dear Daddy,
I thought the timing was right for us to have a candid conversation.
You are one of the most mentally astute, energetic yet well mannered and hard-working people this humble earth has ever known.
Your confidence, quick wit, and charisma brightens any room you enter.
I love you very much, and I think I can speak for my brothers also, that we have the utmost respect for you as a father and role model in business.
I am sorry that people have been saying insensitive things about you lately. The truth is, they don’t understand that I will always forgive you for thinking the way you do, because I know you think you are acting in my best interests. And we both don’t care if anybody else understands.
As your daughter, I would want nothing more than to make you happy. But in terms of relationships, your expectations of me and the reality of who I am, are not coherent.
I am responsible for some of this misplaced expectation, because I must have misled you to hope there were other options for me. You know I’ve had male lovers in the past, and I’ve had happy, albeit short-lived, relationships. I found myself temporarily happy, buoyed by the freshness, the attention, the interest, of someone physically stronger than myself.
But it was always short-lived, as I quickly lost patience, and felt an indescribable discomfort in their presence. It usually made me frustrated, and I would yearn for my freedom again. I’ve broken a few hearts, hearts of good, honest and loving men, and I’m sorry that it had to be so.
But with Sean, a woman, somehow it was different. I am comfortable and satisfied with my life and completely at ease with her. I know it’s difficult for you to understand how I could feel romantically attracted to a woman; I suppose I can’t really explain it either. It just happens, peacefully and gently, and after so many years, we still love each other very much.
My regret is that you have no idea how happy I am with my life, and there are aspects of my life that you don’t share. I suppose we don’t need each other’s approval for our romantic relationships, and I am sure your relationships are really fantastic too.
However, I do love my partner Sean, who does a good job of looking after me, ensuring I am fed, bathed and warm enough every day, and generally cheering me up to be a happy, jolly girl. She is a large part of my life, and I am a better person because of her.
Now, I’m not asking you to be best of friends; however, it would mean the world to me if you could just not be so terrified of her, and treat her like a normal, dignified human being.
I understand it is difficult for you to understand, let alone accept this truth.
I’ve spent a lot of time figuring out who I am, what is important in my life, who I love and how best to live life, as an expression of all these questions. I am proud of my life, and I would not choose to live it any other way (except also figuring out how to be gentler on the planet).
I’m sorry to mislead you to think I was only in a lesbian relationship because there was a shortage of good, suitable men in Hong Kong.
There are plenty of good men, they are just not for me.
Wishing you happiness.
Patiently yours,
Your daughter, Gigi.
- REM RAMZI
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